A lesson I have gradually been learning is that sometimes a person just has to scream. I’m sure basically everybody has been on the receiving end of a screaming session (or at least a raised voice) many times. There are times in which you might simply piss someone off and that is why they yell at you. However, there are times when people yell at you but are not yelling about you. If you are sensitive like I am, it is so easy to take it to heart when someone is being angry toward you. What I have realized is that sometimes people become so full of sadness, frustration, and rage that they simply have to scream to let it out. Who has not been screamed at because they happened to be the person in the room right after the last straw was placed on the camel’s back? I find it is also common that people on the receiving end of outbursts are those who are viewed as non-threatening. If your mom has had a totally crappy day at work and comes home and starts yelling when you have done nothing wrong, don’t internalize the blame. Do whatever you need to do to diffuse the situation (which may likely be to do whatever she asks and give her space).
Let me make it clear that there is a difference between abuse and letting someone freak out a little from time to time. Don’t let someone hit you. Don’t let someone belittle you. A person doing those things to make himself/herself feel better has reached a level of sickness that requires professional help or imprisonment.
Being a non-threatening person can feel like both a blessing and a curse. People feel safe to be themselves with you. This means that you can share in their joys and perhaps (excluding people with social anxiety) make friends easier than others. However, being non-threatening can leave you feeling like a doormat sometimes. If not like a doormat, like a free therapist people come to. It can be exhausting, especially if you are empathetic. For me this means a serious need for alone time (or alone with fur baby time). You have to recharge your batteries and wash off the muck people have thrown at you. If you don’t, you might snap as well. Blessed be, y’all.